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Overrated, methinks.

For the past three years, ever since I made a conscious decision to tithe my teenage years to God and that I didn’t believe in dating anymore, I’ve had a lot of people who are absolutely amazed by my “conviction.” People are convinced that I must be so strong to decide that I won’t date at all and won’t be in a relationship until I hit at least twenty… and then sticking to it. Everyone thinks that’s so “holy,” so awesome, such a wonderful example.

But you know what? I’m overrated. What I usually don’t tell people is, even though I’ve decided that I won’t date or be in a relationship right now… I’ve never had the chance to say no. You heard me right! Nobody’s ever “asked me out” or even shown any interest in me. I know that if I had the chance, I’d say no, emphatically no. But I’ve never been given the chance, and therefore I’ve never said no, and therefore I’m just like every other person on the face of the earth.

I turn twenty in six months. Some stupid part of me wishes that someone WOULD show an interest, just so I can prove to myself that I can hold up to my convictions. That’s stupid, though. The whole thing is like saying “I won’t watch TV for the next five years,” and then moving to a third-world country where they don’t even have electricity. You never walked into a room where the TV was on and had the conviction to walk back out. Is it the same? What do you guys think?

Edit: Jessyca was kind enough to IM me and ask me out so that I could say no. I feel much better now. HA!

10 Responses to “Overrated, methinks.”

I still believe that you are convicted. Sometimes God has other plans for us.

Jessyca
September 9th, 2006

I know what you mean. I didn’t make a vowe not to date, but I’m 18 myself turning 19 in 2 months and have never been asked out on a date. I don’t know if I’d accept if I ever was, it all depends on whether or not I was fond of the gentalman. But if no suitor comes along and the years go by I’ll just say it was intentional

Ruthann
September 9th, 2006

Sometimes I feel like that too. As much as I want to “take it cool” when it comes to dating, I wish that some people would at least show some ‘interests’ in me. I mean, yeah, even if I want to slow down on the dating part doesn’t mean that I have no interests in boys, either. Oh well.

Mall
September 10th, 2006

Check out this comic.

As you know, Meli, I share your conviction, and I haven’t had the chance to say “No” either. But have you considered that perhaps, since God knows of our conviction, he has decided not to send any suitors our way just yet?

I am unmovable until I find my Mr. Darcy.

Shawna
September 10th, 2006

Now that is the posting to get some comments out of! Meli, I will write you a letter… I can’t hardly wait to get your letter written! It would be so nice to ask you on a date and go ahve a nice lunch together! Oh wouldn’t tha tbe nice? And I would refuse that you decline! But you know what? Something rather odd, I hope that I don’t have to wait until you DO turn 20!
Anyways, Lila tov!! love you much!
~caterpillar on etiquette walk

your anonymous one!
September 11th, 2006

One of my professors says, “No, I don’t do drugs, but I’ve never stolen moon rocks, either.” She’s never been in a situation to be tempted to do drugs, so it’s no great asset to her character that she doesn’t. Just like she’s never been to the moon, but if she went, she might steal a moon rock.

It’s still a nice thing to do. I’m sorry no one’s been interested.